Men Want Me…

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Men want to have sex with me. Men want to play with me. Why don’t they want me?

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Where Are They?

Fun Time

I just read a book review about a Dom finding his sub…

He, in true dom form, takes things very slow. He needs and wants to get to know her…but slowly. He wants to know her, what makes her tick, all of her habits, her likes and dislikes, what she does for a living. He wants to know it all. He’s getting to know his submissive. He takes care to get to know her as a woman. He respects her.

Where is this Dom? All the Doms – in fact, all the men, period – I meet want to rush in and, for the most part, just want one night stands – no relationship. So where is this Dom?

Online Dating…

Heart

Doing the whole online dating thing, one thing I’ve come to realize is that if a man is serious about getting to know you, he won’t ask for your picture.

I’ve never really cared about looks that much – as long as the man takes care of himself (showers, shaves, brushes his teeth), I’m good. But if you’re using a site like craigslist or FetLife, you don’t necessarily have a photo posted and the first thing I’m usually asked is, ‘Can you send a pic?’

The last few men I’ve been involved with never did ask for photos before meeting. We corresponded for a while before meeting face to face so by that point, we had a good feel for each other. If they were disappointed on my appearance when we met, it didn’t show. I’ve also realized they didn’t push me to meet or to have sex with them.

I’m beginning to think there’s a correlation here. If a man is serious about wanting to get to know you, wanting some sort of relationship, he won’t care about a photo and he won’t pester you to meet before you’re ready. Don’t let them…

Making a Connection…

La Sagrada Familia nave
[Interior view of La Sagrada Familia, Barcelona, Spain (photo from Wikipedia)]

Last weekend I broke down and joined a popular dating site. I did it because I’m lonely. As someone said to me, I’m trying to make a connection, be it fetish or vanilla. The problem is that I don’t realy know what I’m doing there. I can scroll through photos of men (all in age ranges of 50 to 65 because God forbid I would want to date anyone younger than myself!) and apparently I can wink at them or some such nonsense.

I have to admit that I’m kind of afraid. Some of these men look like serial killers. Granted, that’s a small minority although none of the men look like the ones in the commercials for any of the dating sites. Most of the men actually using the site are rather ordinary in appearance – someone you might see in your condo or office building, maybe at Costco. These are my men! The ordinary ones! If only I knew what to do with them now…

Dating…

Icepalnt Flowers near Blaisdell
[Iceplant at Blaisdell]

I am in my 50’s and I have never dated a man. I lived with one, had his child, but we never got the dating part down. I’ve had sex with plenty of men but those liaisons never turned into dating types of relationships. Even more recently, after a long, dark, dry spell, my sex life has been flowing – but I’m still not dating. Which I guess makes me the woman you have sex with, not the woman you take to dinner and a movie. So why, exactly, am I having sex with you??? Oh yeah, it’s sex and it feels freaking awesome…

Not-So-Pretty…

Trees

I keep seeing ads on all the profile and dating sites where men are seeking “attractive” women. Specifically, they want only attractive women. This seems to prove my point that men are visual and can’t look past a not-so-pretty face. I would hope this is why they’re still single and looking, because women won’t put up with their shallowness. I would also hope the tables get turned and these men find out what it’s like to be turned away because they don’t pass muster on first glance…